在通道侗家山寨,至今还保留着青年男女独特的谈情说爱的传统风俗“行歌坐夜”,就是侗家小伙子夜晚到侗家姑娘家里通过唱歌对歌来谈情说爱,定下终身。 行歌坐夜一般选择月朗风清的夜晚,侗家小伙子打扮一新,相约三两伙伴,一边吹着侗笛之类的乐器,一边踏着月光跋山涉水,走村串户,寻找正盼望和等待小伙子们前去行歌坐夜的姑娘。到达姑娘屋边后,小伙子并不急于去叩门,而是放开歌喉唱上一首恳求姑娘让他们进门的“敲门歌”。歌词内容有多种多样,一般的是;“开门哟,快开门,让我们进来歇 Dong family in the channel cottage, still retains a unique young men and women talk about the traditional customs of love and love “sit night”, is the young man at home to Dong girl home night singing song to talk about love, set lifelong. Songs sitting in the night the general choice of the moonlight clear night, Dong young man dressed up, meet thirty-two partners, while blowing the instrument such as Dong flute, marching moonlight hell and high water, walk the village string, look for is looking forward to Waiting for the boys to sit and dance songs girl. After reaching the girl’s house, the young man was not in a hurry to knock on the door, but let go of the singing voice singing a “knock-on song” that begged the girl to let them in. There are a variety of lyrics, the general is; "Open the door yo, open the door quickly, let us come and rest