生活中有许多父母在管教孩子中表现出一种矛盾现象,一方面怀疑自己的教子方法不够正确,另一方面又在实际教子中态度固执。以这种矛盾的心理和行动管教孩子,势必反映出方法的盲目性和不稳定性,难于给孩子形成习惯性的生活准则和持久一致的道德规范。若想教子成才,必须有明确目标、具体步骤和科学方法做为父母的行动依据。其实,完全合理的教子方法是不存在的,因为众多独立成长的孩子本身就千差万别。父母们在管教孩子中各自都可能表现出或大权独揽的家长专制,或听凭孩子任性、放任自流的不同倾向,这是不奇怪 Many parents in life show a contradictory phenomenon in the discipline of their children. On the one hand, they suspect that their methods of teaching their children are not correct enough, and on the other hand they are stubborn in the actual teaching of their children. To discipline children with such contradictory psychology and actions will inevitably reflect the blindness and instability of the method and make it difficult for children to form a habitual standard of living and long-lasting and consistent ethics. If you want to teach the talented son, you must have a clear goal, concrete steps and scientific methods as parents’ action basis. Actually, the totally reasonable method of teaching god children does not exist because many children who grow up independently have different backgrounds. It is not surprising that parents may or may not show monstrosity in the autonomy of their parents in disciplining their children, or in the different propensity of children to be self-willed