没有诉讼,没有争吵,也没有将一个脆弱的年轻家庭毁掉。受到伤害的常见反应是追求公平——“他们不能这样对我。他们以为他们是谁?我要起诉他们。”我们都需要正义和公平,当有人伤害我们,我们自然希望他进行弥补。也正因如此,我们会有律师、法官和法院。如果我们有协同思维模式,那么,我们就不会满足于公正了,我们会寻找比公正更好的事物。比起报复,我们对和解更感兴趣。我们正在寻找一个比仅仅得到公正更好的解决方案,一个让参与其中的每个人都比以前过得更好的解决方案。经过多年的工作和储蓄,我的 There was no lawsuit, no quarrel, no destruction of a frail young family. The common reaction to being harmed is the quest for fairness - “They can not do that to me. They think they are? I want to sue them.” We all need justice and fairness, and when someone hurts us, we naturally want him to make up. It is also for this reason that we have lawyers, judges and courts. If we have a concerted mindset, then we will not be content with justice, we will look for something better than fairness. We are more interested in reconciliation than revenge. We are looking for a solution that is better than just getting just, a solution that makes everyone involved better off than before. After years of work and savings, mine