《论语》是一部教人修身养性、为人处世之书,堪称中国人的“圣经”。人们应当如何选择和结交朋友,如何对待和处理朋友关系呢?对此,书中有很多值得玩味的阐述。比如,关于交友的标准,书中的《学而》篇和《子罕》篇两度强调了孔子的主张:“无友不如己者。”意思是说:结交朋友,要瞄准那些与自己志趣相投、道德学问不逊于自己的人,而不能同各方面相比自己都一无所长的人为伍。这里面的道理很简单:一个人只有和优于自己的人交朋友,才能不断 “The Analects of Confucius” is a book to teach people to cultivate their own health and to deal with others’ lives. It is called the “Bible” of Chinese people. How should people choose and make friends, how to treat and deal with friends? In this regard, there are a lot of book worth pondering. For example, on the standard of making friends, the book “Learning” and “Zi Han” both emphasize Confucius’s assertion twice: “Friends are better than themselves.” The meaning is that to make friends, They share the same interests and ethics, and are not inferior to themselves in their own right. They can not compare with others who have nothing to gain from all aspects. The truth here is simple: a person can only keep making friends with someone who is better than himself