北京一家青少年心理研究所开诊的三年多时间里,至少发现有百名年纪在13岁到15岁的少年,出于不同的原因,用剃须刀、玻璃片或刀子、香烟头伤害自己的身体。 是什么原因使这些孩子的行为不能自控,而表现得近乎疯狂? 心理专家分析认为,具有自虐倾向的人,与其幼时的家庭教育有关。他们的父母为孩子树立的标准太高太完美,在任何时候都是贬低孩子而不加以赞美。久而久之,这些孩子也就学会了总爱找自己的过错,认为自己不配被赞扬和尊重,并以自我挑剔和自责为习惯,甚至产生了一种自虐的“快感”。 At least a dozen teenagers between the ages of 13 and 15 were found in more than three years of operation at a Beijing Institute of Adolescent Psychology. For different reasons, cigarettes hurt themselves with razors, glass sheets or knives body. What causes these children’s behavior can not be controlled, and the performance is almost crazy? Psychological experts believe that those who have a self-torture tendency, and their childhood family education. The standards set by their parents for their children are too high and too perfect, at any time to belittle their children without complimenting them. With the passage of time, these children have also learned to always find fault for themselves. They think they are not deserved to be praised and respected. They also use self-critical and self-blame as their habit and even have a “pleasure” of self-torture.